Crossing the lines.::.Family affection

So the latest buzz in about the Kim Porter and Lil Quincy kiss along with the Lisa Raye kiss with her daughter. Now, I remember the LisaRaye kiss like it was yesterday. Me & my girls were sitting around having girls night in watching her new reality show when LisaRaye started (as what seemed to us) passionately kissing her daughter all over her face. We were all stunned…looking at the TV like “WTF!!!!”. I’m not gonna lie, I personally felt a bit uncomfortable watching an adult kiss a child that way.

Now, since then Quincy (Kim Porter’s son – Kim Porter is the baby mother of Puff’s son) posted a picture in honor of his mother, that also set people’s radars off….Check out the photo of 18 year old Quincy and his mother Kim and check below for the LisaRaye kiss and you tell us what you think? After a certain age should parents kiss their children on the mouth?

Check out the video below for the kiss LisaRaye shared with her daughter. Starts at the 1:19 mark:

If you love me, going from an 8 to 18 shouldn’t matter.

Forget the ring…I want the baby!!!

Would you rather be a baby momma to a well-established man, or in a loving relationship with a regular guy? The role-models of today that both young adults & grown women look up too are people like Kim Porter (One of Diddy’s baby momma’s), Savannah Brinson (Lebron James baby momma), Keisha Cole (Daniel Gibson’s baby momma), and the other multi-tude of un-wed Rapper, NFL & NBA chicks with babies that come with huge child support checks and affords them the glamorous life,  it seems as though more and more on-lookers are opting to be just like them. Being a baby momma is seeming to become the occupation of choice these days, and the correct name for it is called “To snag a baller”. Funny how things have changed, where love & respect is only a figment of the imagination and women will sacrifice having it for a “meal ticket” or a “free ride”.

Shaunie O’neal (Shaquille O’neal’s ex-wife) is producing a new reality show that debuted this weekend called “Basketball Wives” (funny how none of them are actually wives anymore, but did manage to “come up”), and if you look deep into it….the common story that these women share (except for one that is currently engaged) is that while the lifestyle is great…it’s filled with a lot on lonely and sleepless nights, threats, constant realizations that your man is sleeping out on you, etc.  Evelyn Lozada’s ex-fiance ‘(Antoine Walker) was a multi-millionaire (basketball) at one point and is now near penniless…If she would not have had the brains to open a boutique (with his money) imagine if she had reared a chid with him inorder for the checks to flow…At this point, there would be none.

What are your opinions on this? Would you rather carry a millionaire’s baby or be in a loving relationship with Joe Blow?

For the Love of Money: The Sugar-Daddy!

Sugar-daddy: a wealthy older man who gives a young person expensive gifts in return for friendship or intimacy.

So we have older men dating ladies the same age of their daughter hell sometimed even their grand-daughters age!!! The “Sugar-Daddy” has been around for ages and its just one of those relationships people tend to look at and know off top….He’s paying for that!

Is it safe to assume that everytime you see an attractive 20 -30 something year old with a blue collar 55 plus year old that he is her sugar-daddy and that she is only with him because…”he’s paying for that” ??  When a woman is looking for a sugar-daddy…it seems that this PYT who is known by her peers for only dating, nice looking, attractive, physically fit men her age… Will throw all that out the window when it comes to a meal ticket. The notorius sugar-daddy is known as an older 55+ white corporate married man (this is not always the case but is the sterotypical image) whose wife has decided that she rather spend his money and either not be intimate or cant be intimate so he decides to go out and find his version of a “male fountain of youth” .  Sugar-daddies come in all shapes, sizes and colors…some are handsome and some make your stomach quinch….but since he’s keeping his end of the bargin, you deal with him for whatever short period of time you have to, doing whatever he likes.

What’s your opinion on the infamous sugar-daddy? Is is wrong for a single young woman to lend herself and her time out to a “single” older man ?

When love is not enough: House mate v/s Partner?

Here’s a male member question…..

You’re at your prime…you’ve come from a hard life but have made good for yourself. You have been in your career for over 10 years, you’ve purchased your first home, you have good credit, and you believe that life is about moving forward. You are financially stable, God fearing and ready to settle down. You have two people in your life that you care about.

Female 1. You “love”  but she doesnt wanna work, cant keep a job, and doesnt contribute financially in anyway and you see where the person doesnt have the drive that you have to keep moving up in life if you work hard and can afford to do so. You move out the little old house down the road and purchase your first home and she questions what was wrong with where you were? You offer to help them out to maybe further their education but they show no interest. You fell in love with her and hoped that you would be that person that could inspire her to get up, get out and get something. But, nothing….

Female 2. U “like” this person a lot. They know the importance of a good work ethic, they are ambitious, fun, smart, business savy, unselfish, offers to do things for u sometimes (although you never accept), etc. You dont like this person as much as #1 b/c by seeing both you havent had the time to get to know the person like you would.

You are wanting to focus on one person to start building a real relationship. Do you continue to be in a relationship with #1 b/c you’ve been with her a while and you love her, or do you end the relationship with #1 and begin to put more time and effort into #2 and work on building that relationship?

“This is a real life situation from an attraction successful African American male. Ladies these are the thoughts and some of the reasons that we get left alone and sit alone wondering…Why!?  Sometimes we have to step outside of ourselves and ask the question… Would I date me? What do I bring to the table? What are the benefits of dating me.”

Your body wants it now, but since you don’t want to seem “easy” you wait.

What’s the appropriate time frame for giving up the goods?!?! The story behind this question is mainly asked by women who fear seeming “easy” to the male counterpart. But what is easy? Your body wants it now, but since you dont want to seem “easy” you dreadfully wait.

Now we’re not asking this question to those who have opted to wait til marriage (we know your view), but how can u calculate a perfect time? You can give it up on the 1st night and have a lasting relationship or u can wait 6 months and get dumped! As adults my opinion on the matter is that the time is right when the 2 consenting adults feel they are ready!

Some people not wanting to seem easy with someone they just met can decide to continue a sexual relationship with a side partner to compensate…So how is that viewed?

Soooooo if you decide that your rule is 6 months and you wait 6 months and he leaves you…Do you then say, “DAMN! I shoulda waited 9 months!”

Please share your thoughts.

Police Looking For Louisiana Man Who Has Been Knowingly Spreading HIV To Women For Almost FIFTEEN YEARS!!!

Shreveport Police are looking for a man they say may have knowingly spread the HIV virus to an unknown number of people.

Detectives have an arrest warrant out for 36-year-old Quacy L. Francis for knowingly exposing people to the HIV virus. Police say his potential victims could date back as far as 1996.

Shreveport Detectives want anyone who may have been exposed or knows someone who may have been exposed to Francis to contact the detectives office at 673-6955.

Quacy Francis has gone by several alias throughout the years including: Quacy Frances, Lekelvin Francis, Quacie Francis, Terry Johnson, Dion Scott, and Eric Scott.

Anyone who contacts the police regarding their possible exposure, should rest assured that the police department will protect their confidentially and are only seeking information to aid in the prosecution of Francis.

 

-They should add “BURN ALIVE” to the dealth penalty options……All in favor say I !!!!!!!

Your hubby has had an affair…Jump-off must go, but yall stay together!?

This story is a week or so old but I wanna hear yall’s opinions on the subject at hand!

Whhhhhhy Oh Why Oh Why Wyclef…

According to Mediatakeout.com artist, producer and humanitarian award winner Wyclef Jean’s wife found sexy/possibly nude photos in his cell phone of his manager. It is reported that his wife pulled rank by doing this……

“Claudinette flew into a jealous rage,” claimed one insider. “She jumped to the conclusion that something may be up between Wyclef and Lisa. She told Lisa to stay away from her husband. To embarrass Lisa, she also e-mailed the nude picture to a number of people in the music business.”

Am I the only one that doesnt understand what the hell is that gonna do beside embarrass the jump-off and with this being the era of “make a sex tape be a star” it might even jump off her career. Maybe its a little early…But shouldn’t the next breaking news story be that she “left” his cheating ass and the papers  have been delivered??

What warrants sexy/nude pics of an employee in your husbands or boyfriends phone? How can he possibly get out of this?

I always try to tell people, “DO NOT AIR YOUR DIRTY LAUNDRY UNTIL YOU HAVE ACTUAL GOTTEN TO THE BOTTOM OF IT!” Now if wifey decides to stay with him…the world is then gonna look at her like she’s a damn fool. Maybe she jumped the gun…maybe the pictures were sent to his phone by mistake (yeah I know…highly unlikely) but now wifey has prematurely gotten old girl fired and forwarded her nude photos to everyone she could think of… *tsk tsk tsk* That would justify a good ole fashion beat down. LOL.

Why do some women sometimes catch their boyfriends/husbands cheating and have accuarate evidence but decides the way to solve the problem is goin in on the jump off…making him cut off all contact, but staying in the relationship? You’re basically setting the stage that you arent goin anywhere no matter what he does. *fool*

I guess sometimes its also cheaper to keep HIM!

Why Gabourey Sidibe (Precious) didn’t win an Oscar according to Howard Stern.

Howard, Howard, Howard! Howard Stern has weighed in on why Gabourey Sidibe did not win an Oscar and by his account; never will. On his show he went in and he went hard. Maybe he is just saying what others are thinking…. Oh! And let me add…His African-American female co-host is cosigning him!  Has she forgotten that she was once an over-weight black woman?

Stern ranted, “There’s the most enormous, fat black chick I’ve ever seen. She is enormous.” …”Everyone’s pretending she’s a part of show business and she’s never going to be in another movie.”….”She should have gotten the Best Actress award because she’s never going to have another shot. What movie is she gonna be in?”

Check out the video below and let us know your thoughts…..

Why wont he put a ring on it?

You’ve been together 5 years, you have 2 kids, you live together and everyone around town calls you his “wifey”. Unfortunately, you don’t have the ring to prove it.

Some women claim to be ok in “Shack mode”. I say that’s Bullsh*t! You say that to cover up the fact that you too wonder why he wont seal the deal but are afraid to voice this concern in fear of him leaving you altogether. When entering into a relationship with someone off top you owe it to yourself to know what his/her “intentions” are. Either they have future plans of marrying one day or never wants to take that leap to life long commitment. If you meet someone who doesnt have plans and you do…..That isnt the move for you. Most most people would anyway cause people still believe that they can change people. Where in some cases that person just might change their mind, but if they dont….then what? You’ve wasted years of time trying to reach an unobtainable goal, and you knew it from day one!

Just as it is with life, in relationships you need to set time frames, and goals. If you’re dating someone and you fall in love dont shack up without knowing what the goals of the relationship are. Ask the person…Where do you see us next year, etc. If you have been in a relationship with a man atleast 3 years (and thats stretching it in my personal book), yall live together and have kids and he hasnt even hinted around to marrying you or gave you a ring….YOU’RE IN THE WRONG SHACK!

Why buy the cow when he’s getting the milk for free??? Why put a ring on it when it looks as if he just might still be browsing around. He has you for security but can end the relationship at any time if he deems necessary.

What should have been from dating, to engaged, to move-in, to marry…..instead was from sugar, to shack, to sh*t!

He’s not gonna put a ring on it because he never intended too….

How long is too long?

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